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Rock Chicks- Women Of Substance

Rock Chick women are passionate and relevant to today’s society. They are ready and prepared to step up and step out. Extravagant in their desire to see others belong to God’s kingdom, they embrace hospitality and have a ball.

The Rock Chick concept is made of three strands which are separate yet intertwined.

They are:

Themed dinner parties:
Unchurched friends relax with christian girls from church and have an absolute hoot. So far we’ve had a pink party, get lippy, pirates of the carribean and a shoe party. No charge to the guests as the church covers the cost of the meal and even the party bags!

Party with a purpose:
Rock chicks give back to someone in need or a local charity as a result of the ticket sales at the champagne and dessert event.

Glass slipper ball:
Held annually this red carpet event will blow your socks off! A parallel bewteen God’s lavish grace towards us and the rags to riches story of Cinderella, we share in this undeserved love as we all have a ball!

The Rock Chicks concept is one which you can easily adapt in your own church or community. Why not host your own themed dinner parties, find someone you would love to bless at a party with a purpose and organise a fabulous glass slipper ball?

For more details contact the activate team and ask for Alison Tinsley or visit http://www.rockchurch.org.uk/rockchicks/

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Are you in your Element?

ARE YOU IN YOUR ELEMENT?

Whether it’s Desperate Housewives and Sex and the City, Winnie the Pooh and Snoopy or if you’re one of the many women fans of Top Gear – you’ll have observed that many of our favourite TV programmes have one thing in common – ‘teams’ of four main characters each with a very distinct personality.

Those who never miss an episode of Desperate Housewives will recognise the seeming OCD that drives Bree, the ‘look at me’ antics of Gabrielle, the efforts of Susan to keep everyone happy and Lynette’s irresistible urge to ‘tell it like it is’, as reflections of themselves and their friends.
Top Gear’s Jeremy Clarkson is the fiery, ‘don’t care what others think’ character, James May, detailed and careful, Richard Hammond takes the risks and The Stig – the quiet, almost anonymous presence, who is no less a vital member of the team.

Taking it into Biblical territory, Matthew, Mark, Luke and John all convey the gospel message in very different yet equally effective ways and if we look at other Biblical characters it’s clear that Peter, Thomas, James and John are all strikingly different, yet each was an essential part of Jesus team.

I’m a compulsive people watcher. Whether in the supermarket or Starbucks I’ll spot an individual and imagine a life and personality for them in 3 seconds flat. Any amateur people watcher is aware of how varied we all are as human beings and it’s often these differences that cause the difficulties in our personal and work relationships.

As the UK trainer for PEP (The Path Elements Profile) – my new role after 20 years with Activate – what makes me tick is what makes others tick, how to use our diversity to work together as part of the bigger picture and how to practically work on our differences.

Diversity, after all is one of our society’s current obsessions. Millions of pounds are poured into training professionals in issues of age, gender, race and religion in an attempt to make us all more tolerant and less judgemental of each other. We’re all very conscious of the need to use the correct language when talking about different people groups and the press often runs stories about those who have not been careful enough, which has resulted in diversity retraining at best or even court cases and prison sentences in the most extreme situations. Yet it seems that with all the talk of diversity, one of the most important areas is overlooked, differences in personality.

It was at an Activate conference in 2003 when the idea of diversity began to fall into place for me. Author and theologian, John Drane told the delegates about the head of a large multinational company, who was intrigued by what he was reading in PEP founder, Laurie Beth Jones’s book, ‘Jesus, CEO’. With no particular faith, this businessman was intrigued to find that the leadership style of Jesus, as laid out in this book, gave him the best strategies he’d ever come across for running his company.

As soon as I got home I ordered that book and went on to enjoy other books by the same author. I signed up for email alerts and got very excited by one which arrived in my inbox in November 2006 giving details of a training course in a new personality and communication tool – The Path Elements Profile. I had recently read the book ‘The Four Elements of Success’ by Laurie Beth Jones and had immediately taken the online profile it was based on. The accuracy of the 13 page result was staggering and my elemental make up – Fire/Wind was easy to remember.

Ten days later, without much thought for costs or logistics, I was off to LA to do the PEP training course. Enthusing about my decision to my friend Jan, brought the response that she was coming too and so our ‘Thelma and Louise’ trip commenced (except we returned without driving over the Grand Canyon although there were some hairy moments on the freeway between Los Angeles and Orange County!).

The simple, practical and accurate Path Elements Profile (PEP) is an effective, non judgemental tool that identifies how an individual ticks, what their strengths are and helps them address their challenges. There’s an in-depth look at how each particular profile responds to a variety of different situations – 19 sections covering areas from Action, Adventure and Anger to Learning, Stress and my Ideal Work Environment. I’ve coached individuals and couples and found this simple, initiative and fun profile has literally transformed the lives, relationships and careers of hundreds of people. With 17 different personality options, all with their own unique score, the results are highly individual and accurate.

A case in point is Jane. When her husband left her to set up home with a work colleague, she was devastated. She had always been ‘the wife at home’, supporting his ministry and putting her own needs second. She was suddenly thrown into a situation where she had to find a job and recall skills long forgotten. Jane took her PEP and went on to write her own mission statement – based on another of Laurie Beth’s book, ‘The Path’. She realised that far from being the quiet, unassuming person she presented to the world, she did in fact have some assertive characteristics, which she felt had been undermined by her husband’s domineering personality and for the sake of peace she had become what he wanted her to be. Two years on from her divorce, Jane was unrecognisable to those who knew her. She had retrained and returned to teaching, her confidence had soared and she said ‘I’ve been freed up to be the person God made me to be’.

Way back as far as 460 BC, ‘personality’ was big business. Hippocrates realised that people could be identified into four specific groups by their behaviours and he used words which sound more like medieval diseases than a description of human characteristics – phlegmatic, sanguine, choleric and melancholic to describe these. Throughout history philosophers and psychologists have agreed that people can be divided into four basic personality types and Carl Jung’s work in the 1920’s is the basis of much of what is used today in the many of the different personality profiling tools available.
I’ve done most of them as part of a quest to understand myself and others better – I’ve been on courses, gone on line and paid considerable amounts of money to understand what makes us tick and how we can all understand each other better.
But why? What’s it all about? Well for me, part of it is linked with Jesus command to ‘love your neighbour as yourself’. Do I love myself? Many of us find this hard and it may be due to church teaching about ‘denying ourselves’ which I believe should be balanced with the fundamental Biblical teaching of how immensely special we are to God who considered us worth dying for. Failing to understand ourselves on more than a superficial level – after all, we’re ‘fearfully and wonderfully made’ – may be one of the reasons we find it hard to understand other people too and that’s when we run into difficulties.

The building blocks of the universe are contained in the elements- earth, water, wind and fire (see Genesis 1:1-3) so what better words to help us understand the elemental make up of our own personalities and those of our teams, whether in the workplace or the family.

One of the helpful aspects of this unique profile is the ability to provide a matrix between any two people who’ve taken their PEP profile. As a ‘Fire/Wind personality (both fast paced elements), I’ve been married for 36 years to a Double Earth (precise, detailed, cautious, factual) – a totally opposite personality type to my own. It would have been so helpful if years ago we had understood that our perceived ‘challenges’ in each other were in fact opposing strengths which, when realised and understood, made us a great team – something that was often lost on us in our very different ways of processing pace and the way we approached change.

The benefits for couples contemplating a future together are immense as they are for relationship issues in the workplace or within a family unit. Is some ‘bullying’ in the workplace actually one personality type reacting to what it misunderstands in another? Family members whose relationships are strained have found healing as they’ve understood their own elemental makeup and appreciated why it differs from others they live with.

Furthermore, dysfunctional teams have been transformed and other teams who get on well but seemed to lack the ability to achieve all they could, come to realise the need to bring on board others who are different from themselves – and whose traits they may at times find frustrating – but which are essential to bring a balance to the team.

Most teams have a mission statement whether in businesses, churches, schools or football teams, giving them a clearly defined reason for being, against which they can measure ‘success’, yet few of us have ever considered or been encouraged to have our own personal mission statement. Yet, Jesus, had one – ‘I have come that they might have life and have it to the full’. This innate inner sense of purpose drove everything He did from birth to death.

Recently I’ve been taking ‘Path4Teens’ – a simplified combination of PEP and The Path, into schools and through three simple questions, ‘Who am I’ (PEP), ‘Where am I going (The Path)?’ and ‘How will I get there (The Vision)’ I’ve been helping students to understand how to make the best choices for their futures, as they identify their personalities and in turn, their passions. Year 8’s find it gives a great benchmark for choosing their GCSE options and Year 10’s their ‘A’ level or career path. Those approaching further education have something more concrete and personal to work from, rather than falling back on a course a friend had chosen or because their parents thought it was a good idea. Empowering young people to confidently make major life decisions enables them to feel fulfilled and confident as they discover their individual ‘path’ and embark on ways of using their talents and gifts to the full.

Combining PEP with The Path (creating a personal mission statement) can be powerful and understanding ourselves in turn enables us to unlock our God given potential. Women’s groups, churches, youth groups and conferences are all finding it’s a great theme for an event, so do get in touch if you’d like to find out more about an In Your Element session for your group.
Now who wants to swap second rate mediocrity for a life of living passion?
If you’d like more information on PEP or would like to take your own online tests (£30) see www.in-your-element.co.uk or email ruth@in-your-element.co.uk
Perhaps you could get a group together to explore this whole area in more details. Contact Ruth for details – or if you’d like a speaker for an event with a difference – email: ruth@in-your-element.co.uk

Ruth Adams
April 2008

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How to Feel Good Naked

‘Perfect? Me? You’ve got to be joking’.

Perfect is a word we rarely, if ever, apply to ourselves. We use it for others, as in ‘she has perfect skin’ or a ‘perfect figure’ but use it to describe ourselves? Not likely. We believe we would sound arrogant in the extreme. Similarly, we find it much, much harder to answer the question ‘what do you like about your appearance?’ than ‘what you would change about your appearance, if you could?’ We have aspirations for longer legs, flatter tummies, straighter noses, clearer skin…. You name it and we might want to change it. We know we’re not perfect.

It used to be that any less than perfect female could comfortably shrug her shoulders over her shortcomings and think something along the lines of ‘well, I might have big bum but I’ve a great smile and gorgeous hair’. Nowadays it feels like there is such a ‘pressure to be perfect’ that we are at risk of losing our sense of perspective; we can’t see past the ‘big bum’, but not because it’s any bigger than before! We seem to have lost our ability to tolerate our short-comings. I’ve lost count of the number of times I have spoken to a lovely looking woman who completely fails to see any of her own redeeming features because she is so distressed over that one thing that seems so overwhelmingly repulsive: ‘too much fat around the tops of my thighs’, ‘flab that wobbles about under my upper arms’, ‘one breast larger than the other’. Sometimes I feel like shouting at them ‘Look at you! You are gorgeous! You are amazing! Honestly no one even notices the problem that you are so upset about’ but these women can’t hear me. They are sold on perfection. They’ve been made to believe it’s achievable, if they just try hard enough, or save up enough money for the surgery. The reason they are deaf to any good news about their looks is because they have become convinced they are deeply unattractive.

Apparently it has been estimated that the average woman sees between 2,000 and 5,000 air-brushed, computer enhanced images of ‘perfection’ in female form a week. It seems to me that many women these days feel a greater pressure to ‘look good’ and a more acute sense of inadequacy over their own perceived shortcomings. I’ve recently been asking women to list the feelings that are generated by the physical feature they most dislike. Here are some of the words I’ve had back: embarrassment, guilt, shame, anger, abhorrence, disgust, frustration, misery and self-consciousness. Strong words!

Now most of us don’t like to admit that we are unduly influenced by culture or advertising but clearly none of us are immune. Maybe you are reading this thinking ‘I’m completely at home with my imperfections’ and if that’s the case, good for you! I’d still be delighted to hear from you how you manage to feel so positive in a negative world. Even if you personally are very secure about your looks, there is a woman near you, someone you love, maybe your daughter, your sister, your friend, someone whose life experiences and self-confidence is being sapped by this constant pressure to be perfect or by their constant sense of failure.

It is for these women that I am researching and writing a book to be published by Lion Hudson in Spring 2010 called How to Feel Good Naked. It will be a walk through the worlds of diet, exercise and fashion. I hope to show just how much pressure we are under as well as give some easy ways to help us feel more body-confident. Written from my perspective as a Christian, the book will conclude by looking at the power of unconditional love to bring us joy and self-confidence.

I would love to include in the book the voices, feelings and experiences of women of all shapes and ages. If you would like to take part in the questionnaire on this topic please click on the link below. Your response is completely confidential. It will only take a few minutes to complete, if you are happy for me to quote you please be sure to give me a first name (it does not have to be your real name) otherwise you can leave that question blank.

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JOURNEYS OF HOPE – Christians Against Poverty

Journeys of Hope

With news of financial meltdown hitting the headlines, it’s rare to hear positive stories of hope about people who’ve struggled with their finances. Journeys of Hope offers twelve such stories – testimonies of people who were living in desperation, until they sought help from Christians Against Poverty, the national debt-counselling charity. The book is the second published by the charity, following Nevertheless, the story of CAP’s first twelve years. Journeys of Hope is a testament to the power of God working through His people to change lives, with accounts of how these people were freed from the chains of financial misery and given new life and hope for the future.

The shocking realities of debt, such as extreme hunger, mental illness, abuse and suicide, paint a bleak picture of life for many in 21st century Britain. Christine lived a “waking nightmare”. Lyndsay attempted suicide. Ralph stopped eating due to stress. These are stories of lives taken to the brink due to the suffering and deprivation brought on by their debts. But, as the title of the book suggests, in each case the transforming power of God shines through, as CAP gives them a practical solution to their financial difficulties, offering hope where before there was none.

Journeys of Hope is an inspiring and moving book which will remind you of just how much God can do. It’s not just a book full of ‘feel good factor’, though. This collection of testimonies is a wake-up call to UK Christians who think debt is a third-world issue; it powerfully depicts the struggles and the transformation of people who live in every city, town and neighbourhood of the UK, and maybe even next door.

Christians Against Poverty won the Sunday Times Best Small Company to work for in 2008 and 2009. Check out their website www.capuk.org

Journeys of Hope is available from Christians Against Poverty
Registered Office: Jubilee Mill, North Street, Bradford, BD1 4EW t: 01274 760720

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